Individual Adult Therapy
Being an adult isn’t all fun and games.
No one warned us as kids that adulting would be this hard.
Ever wonder how people do it all? Well, the most successful and put-together people have help from mentors, coaches, and/or therapists.
The idea we are supposed to do it all on our own is one of the lies we tell ourselves. The idea of “suck it up and push through” is an outdated Baby Boomer concept that research has shown does not work (well).
Adult problems have an early beginning.
I work with open-minded adults ages 18-45 who are used to caring for everyone and everything but have the most challenging time caring for themselves.
Guess what? Adult problems go back to childhood. Being a “responsible” adult often means you were a child who grew up way too fast.
Children who have parents with mental health stuff, eldest children of siblings, and gifted children tend to be the ones who do everything they can to make everyone around them happy. They go above and beyond at work, attend friend events, do what their families want, and avoid fighting with partners. Somehow, all this good intention leaves us feeling drained, overwhelmed, frustrated, and wanting to avoid everything and everyone.
All the work to make everyone happy somehow still leads to blow-up arguments with people we care about. If this sounds like you, don’t fret.
Gain knowledge that school forgot to teach.
School taught us a whole lot of shit we don’t need. It didn’t teach us about feelings, communication, coping with stress, or identifying our unique needs.
Open-minded, creative, and Queer folks are even more at risk of not knowing how to take care of themselves because of the deep history of not fitting in and not feeling understood. Years of masking leads to a lot of inability to understand our feelings and needs. All this gets in the way of reaching your goals and keeping up the energy to be your bad-ass, ambitious self.
When you feel exhausted and overwhelmed, scrolling on social media rather than doing hobbies or seeing friends sounds much better than doing hobbies or seeing friends.
You don’t have to forget about the life you thought you would have as an adult. I can help you get there!
I offer non-traditional therapy for open-minded adults.
As a non-traditional therapist, I do things differently. You won’t find me saying the same shit all the other therapists say.
I have a cool superpower of making people feel instantly comfortable because of my weirdo lifestyle, where I live out and proud, not caring what other people think of me. Years and years of working on my people-pleasing has allowed me to see signs and patterns in others that keep them easily “stuck.”
Setting boundaries to prioritize your needs without feeling guilty is essential to adulting successfully. Learning the proper communication techniques will allow you to process your emotions more flexibly than yelling at everyone around you or walking away from relationships too soon.
Mindset work is a huge part of therapy with me. We switch your mind from protection mode to learning how to self-soothe and pursue your happiness.
Work with a therapist who gets it.
While working with me, you will interact with someone who understands what it’s like not to fit into traditional molds. You’ll feel seen and understood as you explore your true self.
Together, we’ll develop practical, actionable strategies to help you break unhealthy cycles. You’ll find more freedom, balance, and authenticity in your life, relationships, and work.
I will be with you every step of the way, helping you build the skills you need to overcome overwhelm and discover new ways of successful adulting.
Get in touch with me today. I offer online psychotherapy across California.